tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8879713314448608846.post2586878738318004568..comments2023-03-22T04:12:58.524-06:00Comments on Life, Love & Hospitals: Life is too hard.Kaylahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00574521180136237490noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8879713314448608846.post-69908797017996693002011-09-03T07:41:59.213-06:002011-09-03T07:41:59.213-06:00Kayla~ We've never met but I am a Lewistown gi...Kayla~ We've never met but I am a Lewistown girl. Born and raised there until I was 18. Your family has been on my heart since July. I have never been through what you and your family are going through but I do have a sister very close in age to me and we were very close growing up. Many of your stories remind me of my sister and I. I also have a teenage son and from a mother's point of view my heart aches. I wanted to share that in my 41 years when life doesn't go as planned, for me, the "not knowing" is the hardest part. Whether its physical, emotional, financial..... not knowing when its going to get better or what its going to look like on the other side of whatever mountain your faced with or not knowing how to get through getting from point A to point B and not knowing how to face the reality of no one can give you those answers. I don't consider myself a control freak but the not knowing... I have not always handled that well. I too will not tell you and your family to 'hang in there' or 'stay strong', sometimes the best I could do was to just breathe. <br />I will continue to keep your family in my thoughts and prayers.Lee Ann Siegristhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03113300292741094059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8879713314448608846.post-29237615753810801242011-09-02T21:23:58.513-06:002011-09-02T21:23:58.513-06:00I love your advise, Ternes. Kayla, I'd like t...I love your advise, Ternes. Kayla, I'd like to share some things with you if you're interested. My husband had a TBI, and it changed our lives forever. kathyb0864@aol.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8879713314448608846.post-56160529923929578552011-09-01T04:09:10.489-06:002011-09-01T04:09:10.489-06:00Kayla, this was a good one. I'm not going to t...Kayla, this was a good one. I'm not going to tell you I understand what you're going through. I won't tell you to "be strong" or to "not lose hope." I'm not that kind of person. I'll tell you this though. This isn't something you can hide from. I know you already knew that. I have trouble facing life some days. I hate what I've become in the past 4 years. I hate that I feel like I've made little to no progress towards my goal of making my own movies. I was saying all of this to a friend one night, and mind you this was before he and I knew each other incredibly well, and all we ever talked about were comics. Anyway, I was telling him how I had been given several opportunities to make progress, to get going, whatever and he said one of the most profound things I've ever heard that sticks with me to this day. "A war isn't always won by a landslide of victories. Sometimes, it's won by the ones that count." I think about those words quite often nowadays. Especially with how I feel about so many things in my life. Now I'm not great at taking or listening to my own advice, but just keep that thought in mind as you move forward. It makes the day easier, knowing that this is just another day, and not necessarily the turning point in your battle to stay afloat in this new life of yours.<br /><br />Finally, some real Ternes advice, straight from the horse's mouth. Earlier you said, "I don't know whether to run away from life or curl up in bed and hide from it." My thoughts on that? Fuck it. Get right up in life's snotty little face and show it that you're not afraid. Make sure it knows that even after it's dished out everything it has to you, you'll still be standing waiting only for the dust to settle.The Terneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04651136080228514991noreply@blogger.com